I’ve tried to figure out if this is something I want to write publicly or if it’s something I need to keep private.

And frankly, I’m just tired of being nice.
(which I’m sure there will absolutely be some who would gladly say I am anything but nice…)

However, I have tried to do things diplomatically and now I’m just going to have to flat-out call someone out.

Tammy.
Please.
Get a life.
And stop worrying about what I am doing every single day of mine.

You “won”.
You got “the guy”
so please stop obsessing over my hair styles, what I eat, what I wear, what I do with my kids, where I vacation, and please, dear God, stop looking at pictures of Russ and I kissing.
That can not be good for your mental state.

If you’re “so happy” in your life,
live it.
And let me live mine.

You can not expect Russ and I to be able to have an amicable divorce if you are constantly dragging me into the middle of your relationship.
Every single time you report to him what I’m doing
he thinks of me.

Do you seriously want that???

I have blocked you and Russ from every single aspect of my life so that I can move on.
Why can’t you do that same?
Do you seriously want to know what I Pin on Pinterest?
Do you seriously need to know what photos I share on Instagram?
Are you going to actually purchase tshirts I make on Cafepress?
And what in heaven’s name are you going to do with the photos from my blog that you download? Make a book?

Yes.
I see each and every time you visit my sites.
I see how many hours a day you spend studying my life and frankly,
I think it’s a little concerning
and scary.
And maybe you need some help.

It’s not healthy
and it’s definitely not going to be good for your future with Russ if you’re obsessed with me.

Nor will I EVER want any of my children to ever be around you if you can’t get your act together.

And just in case there is anyone who thinks I’m making this up…
here’s a little snippet from just one day:

6 Dec 13:23:19
6 Dec 13:23:19
6 Dec 13:23:21
6 Dec 13:24:25
6 Dec 13:24:26
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:27:25
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:27:28
6 Dec 13:27:51
6 Dec 13:28:09
6 Dec 13:28:10
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:30:25
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:30:26
6 Dec 13:30:27
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:30:44
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:30:46
6 Dec 13:31:22
6 Dec 13:31:53
6 Dec 13:31:58
6 Dec 13:32:03
6 Dec 13:32:06
6 Dec 13:32:18
6 Dec 13:32:23
6 Dec 13:32:28
6 Dec 13:32:31
6 Dec 13:32:34
6 Dec 13:32:36
6 Dec 13:32:37
6 Dec 13:32:43
6 Dec 13:32:59
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:32:59
6 Dec 13:33:00
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:33:02
6 Dec 13:33:05
6 Dec 13:33:06
6 Dec 13:33:32
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:33:42
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:33:53
6 Dec 13:36:20
6 Dec 13:36:49
6 Dec 13:36:50
6 Dec 13:37:19
6 Dec 13:38:45
6 Dec 13:39:36
6 Dec 13:39:37
6 Dec 13:40:37
6 Dec 13:40:54
6 Dec 13:41:29
6 Dec 13:41:30
6 Dec 13:41:39
6 Dec 13:41:40
6 Dec 13:41:44
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:43:19
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:43:23
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:44:50
6 Dec 13:44:57
6 Dec 13:45:06
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:45:14
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:45:20
6 Dec 13:45:40
6 Dec 13:47:11
6 Dec 13:47:11
6 Dec 13:47:17
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:47:36
6 Dec 13:47:40
6 Dec 13:48:23
6 Dec 13:48:24
6 Dec 13:48:50
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:49:41
6 Dec 13:49:46
6 Dec 13:49:48
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:51:14
(No referring link)
6 Dec 13:51:21

And all those links for Copyscape…
sorry.
That is not how I know what you’re doing.
I have your IP address.
And maybe you don’t know what that is, but every single computer (phones included) have one.
And I know yours.

I am documenting EVERYTHING per my lawyer’s advice and have spoken with the police department.
And if necessary,
I will get a restraining order.
(and frankly, when Russ is even suggesting I get a restraining order because you clearly can’t control yourself, you have got to know you have some serious issues)

I truly hope it won’t come to that.

Please.
Leave me alone.

And just so people understand where I’m truly coming from,
I wrote this post on Dec. 7th and have sat on it for days because I hate the idea of confrontation but after today, I am just plain old tired of the craziness.
(this is a snippet from today):

14 Dec 01:47:01
14 Dec 01:47:03
(No referring link)
14 Dec 01:47:15
(No referring link)
14 Dec 01:47:18
(No referring link)
14 Dec 01:47:30
(No referring link)
14 Dec 01:47:32
14 Dec 01:48:24
(No referring link)
14 Dec 14:51:48
(No referring link)
14 Dec 14:51:49
(No referring link)
14 Dec 14:51:58
(No referring link)
14 Dec 14:52:00
(No referring link)
14 Dec 14:52:37
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14 Dec 14:52:39

PS Before you get concerned that I’m “bad-mouthing” you,
please keep in mind that no one would have a clue who you were if you weren’t so proudly flaunting your adulterous relationship
and the only way any of your friends will have a clue that I’ve said a thing about you is if
A. You tell them (which means you’d have to admit you’re stalking me)
B. They are stalking me too

*For my computer savvy friends, notice the referring links.
She follows me on Twitter and Facebook as well.
Awesome.
Unless I completely hide from my livelihood (yes. I make money sometimes for my writing), she will continue to have access to my life.

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You’ve likely noticed a change in my attitude…

by debi9kids on December 12, 2014

It’s honestly something I really struggled with.

When Russ and I first separated, I jumped right into dating and had a few first dates (and even a few second & third),
and it was mostly because I was really feeling very vulnerable and unlovable and I guess I needed to know that I was lovable.
And as it turns out, I was.

But as the time has gone by, I have started to come to a very different place and realization…
I am still married.
I still have a husband
(even if he doesn’t want me for a wife).
And until our divorce is signed I can not justify being in any other relationship.

My vows meant something the day I took them and they still mean something today.
I didn’t break my vows
nor do I intend to.

I have 10 children who look to me for examples on how to behave properly
and it is absolutely my intention to set an example that words matter,
that vows do mean something,
and that we should mean what we say and say what we mean.

I can not expect to teach by example if I don’t live honorably
so it is my intention to do so.
I fully understand that I am not the cause of the destruction of our marriage and that the church does not look down on me for wanting to “move on” but I also absolutely understand that, while the divorce is “just a paper for society”, it is also very symbolic for my children.
To them, Russ is not only their dad,
but he is also still my husband.

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