My Two Boys… the Definition of Unconditional

by debi9kids on September 20, 2011

Way back when, in 2006 😉 , I gave birth to two babies and suddenly, my little boy that had been my baby, wasn’t a baby anymore.
Instead, Keith was a big brother.

He took to his duties as big brother better than I expected, especially because he had always been developmentally much younger than his age and it was amazing to see him be proud to say he wasn’t a baby anymore.
And it was amazing to see him blossom and at the same time, it was hard on me that he didn’t need me as much.

He’s been an amazing big brother, especially to Will, whom Keith seems to truly adore and whom Will seems to find fascinating.

And all of these many years, while our focus has been so strongly on Will and where our life is going to lead us with him…
Keith has never been far from our thoughts either, especially when it comes to the future.

We’ve always sort-of known that Keith’s disabilities could potentially mean that, like Will, he could be “limited” as far as his ability to be independent.
It’s not something we talk about often but just something we have always known…and something that is hard to accept…

Today Keith’s teacher called and it was honestly the call I have dreaded for a long time.
I knew it was inevitable, but it still doesn’t make it any easier to hear.
His teacher feels, and the school in in agreement, that it might be time to move Keith into a “life skills” classroom.
What this means is that Keith will continue to receive academic classes, but the focus of his day will be spent learning skills he will need in order to eventually be “independent”.

Of course, as his parents, it’s our option to decide what we want to do and it’s not an easy decision,
One we won’t make lightly.

It’s Keith’s future, after all, that rests in our hands,
and our future,
that could potentially include these two boys living with us forever…

I’m still filled with hope that both of our boys will lead lives independent from us,
hopeful that their lives will include everything I can dream up for them and everything they dream for themselves.
But, somewhere, in the recesses of my mind, I do try to prepare myself for the possibility and try not to be in denial that our “retirement” might just include our two youngest boys.

Not that it would be all bad, mind you…

After all…
we would always be surrounded by happiness, giggles, and unconditional love.

And how could that be bad???



Joining in with 7 Clown Circus , Lolli and Parenting by Dummies for Wordful Wednesday and Twinfatuation for Way Back Whens-day.

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Buckeroomama September 20, 2011 at 7:43 pm

I love how much you love your boys. {hugs}


debi9kids September 20, 2011 at 8:11 pm

It's easy peasy 🙂


Sarah September 20, 2011 at 7:57 pm

Awww. I love this post Debi. So near and dear to my heart. Even though Carsyn is only 16 months I often think if he will be with us forever. You are so right about how bad could it be to be surrounded by the laughs.


debi9kids September 20, 2011 at 8:16 pm

It's definitely a daunting thought at times and certainly changes things when we think in terms of "retirement", but if both boys can be as happy they are today, forever, it would certainly keep my future "sunny" 🙂


blueviolet September 21, 2011 at 12:16 am

What an honest expression of your life. It's not that it would be bad, it's just that it's different from anyone would picture for their future. I trust that things will work out in the best possible way for your family.


debi9kids September 21, 2011 at 7:04 pm

Thank you & so very true.

It isn't what I planned, but we'll make it work 🙂


Mommy's Paradis September 21, 2011 at 2:17 am

They look so adorable with each other. And you are a strong woman. I bow to you. 🙂


debi9kids September 21, 2011 at 7:06 pm

No need for that 😉

You'd be amazed what you can handle when it's thrown at you and you have no choice but grin & bear it or curl into a ball and cry.

God gives strength you never knew existed.

Trust me.


Amy September 21, 2011 at 5:29 am

What absolutely sweet pictures! What more can you ask for but laughter and happiness?!


debi9kids September 21, 2011 at 7:07 pm


You can't measure those and that's what makes them absolutely priceless…and perfect.


montanamama September 21, 2011 at 7:27 am

How cute are those boys! Hugs.


Elaine September 21, 2011 at 12:53 pm

Your heart is so big and so full. I love the way you ended this. They are precious. xo


debi9kids September 21, 2011 at 7:08 pm

Thank you Elaine.

It's a good feeling to have your heart overflowing daily 😉


LIsa September 23, 2011 at 4:41 pm

Wow! Such a wonderful post. I can totally understand where you are coming from.

I love this new look of your blog and am thinking of switching it over..but i don't know how. I don't mind deleting my old and beginning from scratch though.


debi9kids September 23, 2011 at 6:08 pm

Thanks Lisa.
I might be able to give you some pointers, although I haven't done the set-up myself. It's STILL being done by

I would imagine of everyone I know in the blog world, you would be the one who understands most where I'm coming from <3


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