I think there comes a point where
every parent most parents realize that the responsibility of their children may (or could) fall upon someone else if , God forbid, a tragedy occurred. It’s not something that anyone wants to think about, or admit, but in being honest with ourselves, we know “things” can happen.
Russ and I have put off the Will discussion for a long, long time. It’s not that we’ve never talked about it and it’s not that we don’t think about it, but it is something that has long stumped us.
The choice to have a large family is a private one and we realize that often everyone does not agree with us. So, the decision to possibly leave our children with someone who wouldn’t necessarily chose to have a large family on their own is absolutely not made lightly.
That has long been the reason we have left that part of our will blank, in hopes that there would never come a day where our children would be left completely parent-less.
However, as we have gotten older and the complexities of life and finances have become more apparent, we realize we can no longer just “skate by”.
Sadly, Will also now creates a larger “burden” as well.
And God, I hate calling him a burden because to me, no matter how difficult raising him may seem, that is the last way I would ever describe my son.
However, I am not so naive as to not realize that Will would absolutely be seen by some as a burden and it’s heartbreaking because the last thing I would ever wish for him is to be seen as too much responsibility.
We have had 5 years to get used to all of the ins and outs of being a family of eleven and during those 5 years, all of us have learned how best to raise William in an environment that constantly keeps him happy and safe. The idea of someone needing to attend a crash course on raising him as well as my other children stops me cold.
Please don’t get me wrong.
Our families love our children and I’m certain all of them would step forward if something happened but the thought of it, the sheer thought of choosing someone…
How do parents do this????
How do you choose someone for your babies if you needed to?